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# Matthew Perry
- URL: https://there-might-be-cupcakes-podcast.ghost.io/matthew-perry/
- Published: 2023-10-29T16:37:41.000Z
- Updated: 2025-02-03T15:53:47.000Z
- Description: Never doubt your impact
- Author: Carla Pettigrew
- Tags: Newsletter, #Migrated-1738597973835, #Import 2025-02-03 15:53

Chandler Bing was so much like friends of mine in high school and college that he is a comfort watch. Matthew Perry was 54 to my 51\. I understood his mental health struggles deeply. It broke my heart to learn that he worried every week that he wouldn’t be funny, that no one liked him, when I still randomly use Chandler inflection to this day in my speech: “Could this BE any more ridiculous?” I understand that sensitivity, being autistic, worrying about something I said to someone else a while ago—should I explain? Apologize? Slink away into the night, never to be heard from again?

A chandler was someone who made candles or torches. I know now that Matthew can see he was one of the lights.

![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/6d/f5/6df583d7-3da2-455c-b104-e0c5ab8c796a/content/images/2025/02/https-3a-2f-2fsubstack-post-media-s3-amazonaws-com-2fpublic-2fimages-2f17564285-be37-4a2e-a79f-e3d3fe490cef_630x889-jpeg.jpg)

Check on your loved ones, and check on yourselves, please. If you are reading this, I love you, and I don’t want you to ever feel like you are taking up too much space or that you shouldn’t be doing the thing you love to do, *your* thing.